Jealousy Makes You Nasty!

Hey Bouquet! I hope you're all good. So I decided to do something different today. No subheadings, no bullet points, just the honest truth and facts. I hope you enjoy reading this post.

If you have a Twitter account (and were active both last night and this morning) you're probably aware of the YouTube video about South African Youtubers that was trending and had people up in arms. If you aren't on Twitter, this is the story.  So a South African Youtuber and two of her friends decided to post a video rating South African YouTubers based on their content, personality, and whatever else. Sni Mhlongo, Mihlali Ndamase and Vicky Eve Jonas were (just to name a few) were all "rated" in the video. Now before we go any further, I want to put it out there that I'm pro choice and opinion. However, I'm also a firm believer in the "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." The girls called a few Youtubers boring, bland and basic just to mention a few of the negative things they had to say about them.

I don't know about you but I definitely have a long list of Youtubers whose content I absolutely love. However, I also have a few Youtubers whose content I don't like and you know what? I don't watch them. There is no reason whatsoever for me to watch content that I don't like just so I can have something negative to say about it afterwards. In my opinion, that video didn't come from a good place. You don't sit down, film and edit a hateful video from a good place. This is why I've decided to publish a post about jealousy and how it really does make you nasty.

Firstly, I want to mention that jealousy is an emotion. Like all other emotions, it can be controlled. Admitting that you are jealous is the first step you need to take towards dealing with this dangerous emotion. I've been jealous a few times in my life and based from my experience, it comes from a place of insecurity. Insecurity comes from not being self content. This doesn't have to be materialistic. You can be jealous of a talent or skill that someone has and you don't. Or you could even be jealous of how other people love or praise that person "all the time." Most of the time, it's just imaginary.

As much as I'm an advocate for embracing all your emotions, jealousy is one of those emotions I strongly advise against embracing. Instead, I suggest that you admit to it (like I mentioned in the previous point) and RISE ABOVE IT! This really helped me become less of a jealous and competitive person. Instead of looking at people who have the things that I desired as enemies, I started looking at them as motivation to improve myself and do better. Yes, she has your dream body and it makes you angry. Instead of talking about her ugly teeth and how she probably had cosmetic surgery to get that body, use her body as motivation. Motivation to go to the gym, motivation to eat healthier or even motivation to save up for cosmetic surgery!

Stop being in secret competition with your friends or anyone else that you look up to. Life is not a competition. Learn to be genuinely happy for others even if they've achieved something that you want to achieve but haven't been able to just yet. Your time will definitely come. We can all win and flourish in our respective lives.

Gossiping about other people and being around people who gossip about other people are both signs that you're jealous and nasty. Stop!

Being unnecessarily negative about things that have absolutely NOTHING to do with you is a sign of jealousy. Stop!

Celebrating other people's failures is a sign of jealousy. Stop!

Don't let jealousy consume you and turn you into a witch. Do better. Tell that little voice in your head to stop! Like I mentioned in my Just Bloom Wherever You Are post, we are all in our own lanes. There's no need to compare yourself to other people. Doing that will only make you insecure and before you know it, you'll be a jealous person posting videos about how boring other people are.

I know that this post is all over the place but I just had to address this subject. The most important thing to take from this is to not allow jealousy to make you a bitter and resentful person. Other people winning is NOT you losing. Jealousy makes you nasty and nastiness makes you...if you know, you know.

Take care. And remember, own race, own lane, own pace.